Changing the Societal Effects of Single Parenting

The effects of single parenting have been broughteach month than it had been. There was no tiered
front and center, as a result of societal changes in oursystem. There was no six month adjustment period. It
country over the past twenty years. This shiftended and she was responsible for all her bills.
changed how single parents lived. Prices started toIt's what she wanted. However, she was never told
increase and technology started to develop at anhow the change would affect her bills. In the
incredible rate. The cost of living became impossibleexcitement and desire to be completely on her own,
for one parent trying to live on their own and we nowshe didn't think to ask and no one offered to tell her,
are in a pickle with hundreds of thousands of singlehow it would all play out and what the final outcome
parent families having to live a difficult life of relying onwould look like. She hadn't considered that it would put
a full time job plus state assistance.her over the threshold for qualifying for her subsidized
Years ago, I worked with a single mother of two littlehousing. As a result, she ended up going quitting her
boys. She had a decent job, but still needed to rely onsecond job and going back. She had ended up making
state assistance to survive. She had come to meless with two jobs and no assistance than she had
several times and shared that she didn't want to be onmade with one job, with assistance. As a country, we
state assistance and wanted to find a way out of it. Aneed to look at our systems as they relate to
couple weeks later, she shard with me that she hadsubsidies. We need reward folks for wanting to be off
been offered another job. (Her second job. She wouldstate and federal assistance programs with a tiered
now be working two jobs to support her family) Sheand layered way of weaning families off slowly.
was well aware that she would be working a lot, but IPeople need time to digest exactly what changes will
had never seen her so excited. She was ecstatic tooccur.
no longer have to rely on anyone else to provide forThis is just one of the many effects of single parenting
her family.that many parents deal with. Use this parent's story as
A month went by and then one day I happened toa cautionary tale. Educate yourself. Speak with your
catch her at pick up and asked her how she wascase worker and be sure you have all the information
doing. I'll never forget her face and response. She hadyou need before making any changes to your financial
a look of disgust and annoyance, with a little sadnesssituation. Advocate for yourself and family and you'll
mixed in. She shared that when she received hersave yourself the pain of lessons learned the hard
second job, she lost all her state assistance, whichway.
meant her rent jumped up to being $400.00 more